Relationships are like Philosophy. As a religion. The basic premise of religion is faith, so is relationship. You can’t touch or hold it. You have to feel it. Faith is an idea. It’s all about trust. Trusting towards thyself and equally towards the partner. Like the gift of being a Pegasus, everyone is not a poet. Similarly, faith and trust cannot be placed on everyone. Confidence is when you can trust your dearest one without hesitation. Confidence builds on that person.
In the long run of life everyone desires a trust worthy partner. Not everyone can claim that they have found their desired person. If everyone could have found the right person, the world would be filled with happy people. But that is not the reality. Reality is also like the Pegasus; not everyone is happy, only a fewer are. Among all those everyone, these fewer, are actually lucky. I humbly like to inform you that, we both are that fortunate.
There is a big difference between looking and seeing. Everyone can look, very few people can see. Thirty-five years ago, our first meeting was literally the first sight. We just didn’t look, we saw each other. In that look there was not only the fascination but also a great realization, and an invention -yes, it’s her. She is the one I’ve been longed for. It is a matter of philosophy. It’s called faith; more like religion. Having confidence without seeing or hearing anything. Yes, it’s called trust. It is faith, trusting. A divine feeling. Then we found out that, we are right, we want each other. That day, the very first day we met, we’ve decided that, we want to spend our lives together.
35 years have passed.
When the dream comes true, it is no longer a dream. Although it makes life dreamy by mixing with reality, there are also ups and downs. We continued to be immersed in each other with the ups and downs of life. Sometimes our age, our environment, our relatives, the path — everything has opposed us, maybe wanted to separate us, but we knew, as we do now, relationships are philosophical things, a lot like religion. The basic premise of religion is faith, so is relationship. We trusted, believed in each other. This trust and beliefs are immaculate.
Ten years have passed with this faith and trust. Ten years are not a short time. There were many ups and downs on the way. It was hard to keep going. But we did not stop. When one of us became tired, we hold the other one’s hand with compassion. We did not bow our heads, didn’t retreat. This most important decision of life gained firm conviction in these ten years.
Then came the day of absolute longing. The two of us are deeply immersed in each other. We tied the relationship in an invisible bond. That was exactly 25 years ago.
25 years have passed since then. Now we are the parents of three children. They are growing in our happiness. We are watching them growing up with a lot of joy. All our fascination and wonders are mixed up with this joy. There are ups and downs on the way of life. Life is an uneven road surface. We’ve faced enough hardship, a lot of unavailability, but there was all over happiness, and that’s the most important thing. Because, by happiness we mean each other. The secret of our happiness is, Relationships are like religion. Very unblemished. Who is instructed to be worshipped by the religion, is the maker of the relationship.
